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Negotiation...

Hmn. Well, now, interesting developments in my exploration have developed. *grin* I am negotiating via email a scene to play out next week at the club. So far, it includes body painting (no, not blue). I'm excited, and am hoping to have pics of the work done. He's an excellent artist and is willing to do a dragon for me :) We are in the process of negotiating other play to go along with it. Hmn.
On this note, I do believe this is the first time I've ever negotiated a scene. I mean, by the time I feel comfortable playing with someone usually, we have a fair idea of what's really liked, what's okay to be pushed and what lines are not to be crossed. But, this gentleman is fairly new to me. I mean, I know him from around the club, and I've spoken to him a bit here and there..but he's more aquantance than friend at this point. However, now that I have a little bit of experience under my belt, maybe its time to let go of some constraints and just explore? I mean, some constraints are better left in place, sure..but, overall, sometimes it just seems that I'm holding myself back from experiencing things. Fear. I know what it is..its fear of looking like a fool in front of someone. Pride, my biggest downfall (Okay, one of them). *sigh* Now, to find a work around so I can explore and learn and enjoy myself. I can let that wild girl inside me out :)
This...is a good first step, and its a really good sign that I'm excited about it. Okay, well, its the dragon *grins* Actually, that's not just it....its playing. Not sex, but just playing. I know the two don't have to intertwine. I like the idea of possibly being bound helpless again...feeling the falling kiss of a leather flogger against my back..the sharp sting of a paddle (even though I don't care for sting, go figure). Or better yet..the cold steel of a blade sliding along my skin *sigh and shiver*

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ex_digitalis869
May. 27th, 2002 01:29 pm (UTC)
My negotiation has always been very simple...i list the things i don't like, and then head from there.

Heh. Also, i think i've played with a safeword like maybe twice. Most of the time i don't feel like i need one.

The body-painting sounds really cool. :}
onyxangel
May. 27th, 2002 01:45 pm (UTC)
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I've never used a safeword in my play - though I like it to be there, just in case. The standard 'red' will do fine...and I'm getting better at vocalizing during play, which was one thing that really held me back.
dream_imp
May. 27th, 2002 02:16 pm (UTC)
I don't know much about scenes but from the one person I know that does them they don't mix sex w/ playing. Having the person doing the flogging know that, would make me feel much safer.

I tied my SO up for the first time. I made sure we had a safe word just incase I accidently caused bad pain, :}because we use the word Stop way to liberally for when he are just fooling around hehhe.
onyxangel
May. 27th, 2002 02:24 pm (UTC)
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Yes..that's why a safeword is red or something that isn't normally called out when playing around or 'being difficult' :)
As far as sex and play - I enjoy mixing the two, or having play lead to sex. It all depends on the play itself and who I'm playing with.
dream_imp
May. 27th, 2002 02:34 pm (UTC)
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I think that would be cool, I don't like pain that much though only the biting and mauling kind. >:}
onyxangel
May. 27th, 2002 02:37 pm (UTC)
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I'm not a pain slut myself, I prefer sensual play. Roughness and biting are good though :)
dream_imp
May. 27th, 2002 04:06 pm (UTC)
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oh yeah *drools and runs to take a cold shower*
onyxangel
May. 27th, 2002 04:14 pm (UTC)
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I wish I could....*mrphs*
dream_imp
May. 27th, 2002 04:16 pm (UTC)
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was a hot grimey day I feel much better now :}Going to watch princess Diaries now. Ammm Soooo board hehe
onyxangel
May. 27th, 2002 04:17 pm (UTC)
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hahaha...that was a cute movie :)
dream_imp
May. 27th, 2002 04:24 pm (UTC)
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Figured I could do that while doing my website since I have seen it before. LOL but I probably will for-go the website tonight :}
onyxangel
May. 27th, 2002 04:52 pm (UTC)
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lol
jr_surfer
May. 28th, 2002 08:13 am (UTC)
scene
That scene sounds like fun, you need to write a scene report for us afterwards, with pics of the body paint. I didn't know you liked knife play, I did some this weekend, and it was pretty hot. I first dripped some hot wax on her, then scraped it off with a knife. Anyway, good lick, I mean luck with the scene :)
J
onyxangel
May. 28th, 2002 09:29 am (UTC)
Re: scene
*laughs* Thanks..and yes, knife and electric play along with bondage are my most enjoyed things so far :)
jr_surfer
May. 28th, 2002 10:51 am (UTC)
Re: scene
Electric... Violet wands?
J
onyxangel
May. 28th, 2002 11:31 am (UTC)
Re: scene
Yes *grins huge*
jr_surfer
May. 28th, 2002 11:42 am (UTC)
Re: scene
Cool, zap...
J
onyxangel
May. 28th, 2002 11:44 am (UTC)
Re: scene
*laughs*
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