February 6th, 2002

devil girl

Nice surprise

I had a nice surprise last night, and Monday night too. Not sure if I mentioned it before. Tyr called Monday night, to say hi, I think. It was nice...didn't have much to say over the phone, but that's okay. And yesterday, he was online for part of the day, and later at night. Again, didn't talk much really..we do much better in person..and I just didn't have much to say last night in general. But, it was a nice surprise both times. I miss him. At least this time, he'll be home soon.
I thought about calling him, but didn't. I didn't because he's on vacation and doesn't really need me interupting that...I don't need or want to be clingy. Its only a week, I can manage. I also don't know if his family is aware of me, or if he wants them to be. So, in an attempt to respect his space, I didn't call. Probably a good thing I didn't, since he spent the weekend with the kids and the ex. Well, at the ex's anyway..he said that she wasn't home much of the time. Or was busy..which seemed to suit him fine. He said that he had lots of quality time with his kids, which is great. He also gave me warning that in the next couple years he may have one of them on his doorstep. Yikes! Not that I mind this in the least...but, yikes! I have no idea what to do with kids! Fortunately, its at least a year off, if not more. I had to smile when he mentioned this...it let me know he *does* think about a future with me. When I've asked, its been "Well, no one can tell the future" kind of answer or "Well, I don't see you going away anytime soon". Which doesn't really translate to "Yes, I see a future with us." Or "I think about us still together several years in the future". This was confirmation that he at least thinks of us beyond Korea :) Yes, I know...I knew before, its just nice to have that confirmation.
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devil girl

The email...

Okay, I have to write about this because its just so typical of her. She didn't send the email to me, but to Bryan. Selina, a former friend of mine, is in financial dire straights...again. What kills me is she puts herself there. She needs a job, but finds multiple excuses not to find one. This time its becase she's not close enough to the city out there in Arlington. And, of course, there's *no* work out there. I'm willing to bet, there's no work within walking distance for her. Heaven forbid she do what she has to and *gasp* take a freakin' bus for an hour or two. I know it sucks, been there. But, hey, I did it.
Reading this email made me roll my eyes and be grateful for distancing myself from her. She's a wonderful person when she wants to be..but being her friend comes with a price. My price was whenever we did something, I had to pay for it. Not a huge deal in and of itself, but it progressed. She would 'suggest' we go out and do things...go out to dinner at places like Outback. At the time, I was living at home, and it was alright for the most part..though the constant suggestions did get to me. I didn't mind paying when I invited her, after all, I knew what inviting her meant, and it was on my terms. I've watched her spiral downward and screw some mutual aquaintances hard. Bryan claims this isn't the first time she's done it, and seeing it, I believe it.
Let me fill you in, it'll help understand the 'humor' of the email. Selina used to live with her teachers, people she's known forever. They let her stay in their basement for a year, with the stipulation that it was 'just until she got on her feet'. Meaning, job, rent, etc. It ended up that Selina spent most of her time online (also a known habit), and very little of it (for all appearances sake) actually 'beating pavement' so to speak. She ended up not having a job.
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