onyx (onyxangel) wrote,

Interesting developments...

Yesterday I got an instant message from Tyr's ex-wife (#2). Mind you, she's never had anything to do with me before. I prefer it that way. Seems suspicious that now, after they've had it out, she's come to 'talk' to me. I assume that she still reads my journal, because she had my aim. Tyr has no reason to give it to her, and I *know* that I haven't, however, its listed here. She asked if we could talk for like 10 minutes. I replied that I was at work. She asked when I'd be home, online, etc. I told her after 9 pm. Its not that I really want to talk to her, but I am curious about what she has to say. I figure she's going to defend herself in the relationship by telling me all that Tyr has done, or she's going to try and shock me with 'lies' he's told. Personally, when it comes to their relationship, I think it should be left between the two of them. Period. He tells me what he wants me to know, or what he feels is relevant. However, I have no desire to hear any of it from her. She's not my concern. I talked to Tyr about it last night, and he figures she's going to tell me that he's lying to me...that they were discussing the possibility of the two of them getting back together when he and I first started dating. Thing is, I knew that. He told me that. He told me that a long time ago...when we first started dating. So, what is she going to do? Tell me that they've been together? Lets see...who am I going to believe? My Dom, or a woman who has issues? Her own boyfriend isn't even sure she's being honest with him. How sad. Knowing that this woman was at one time very important to him, I asked him how nice I had to be...and I could just see her going to him and saying "see what a bitch she is" or some such. Creating drama in his life *again* when he simply doesn't need it. But, he told me I could be me, mean or nice. He just doesn't care anymore. She didn't message me again last night though, so we'll see.
I asked him about play and definitions of sex, he said he'd think about it. This was a couple days ago. Last night, he got back to me. No sex at this time - essentially means I can please myself during play or after play, but no help. If I want to play with someone not approved on the list, he has to meet Wolf, a mutual friend and we are to play at the Spot. No private play with unknown persons. Tyr said that he'd think about the sex thing some more once he gets used to me playing with others. Personally, I'm alright either way. I asked primarily because I didn't want to cross boundaries without knowing. That sounds wrong...but, I don't intend on crossing any, so I have to know where they are first. I told him about Sandybear. It was nice talking to him, and we had a long conversation. Must teach him how to be more affectionate online ;)

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