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Apr. 8th, 2002

Well, poor digitalis may read this twice, but I stumbled upon it in her journal. I had every intention of just commenting on her journal, but now I feel in the mood to expand on this. The journal I'll be commenting on is tasharavenscry. This journal won't allow me to post comments there, or I would.

Tasha states: women's emotions flow from one another much smoother and easier than man-to-woman. It's a point blank truth , though anyone can cut it up and dissect into a million little pieces, women with women merely connect on a more primeaval emotional level.

I have to disagree that its a 'point blank truth'. To whom? Not to me, that's for certain. If its true for her experiences, great! But, it isn't for mine. On the whole, being around other women is awkward for me. I don't know how to relate to them, even on a 'non-romantic' level. Of course, this 'point blank truth' may be for gay women, of which I am not.
Point of fact, in my experience, my emotions 'flow' better when I'm with a man. Perhaps this is the result of being a tom boy at a young age. When I was growing up, for a long time, I was the only female in the neighborhood. Of course, this gave me some insight to how men think and react to things. Oh, I won't pretend to understand them any more than I understand my own gender. Which..I don't.
In my experiences, women are much more confusing and underhanded. This does not, in my opinion, make a 'smooth flow'. I have had very few good experiences with women, primarily due to that distinct lack of emotional flow I have with them. I by no means associate with my 'masculine' side more...in fact, I'm far from masuline. Conversely, I wouldn't really consider myself feminine either, but I suppose that depends on one's definition of feminine. Let me say that mine is the girly girl..all pretty pink lace and ribbons kinda girl. Not me.
This, however, strays from the original thoughts about the journal. Which was primarily to say, that this isn't 'point blank fact'. I know I can't be the only female out there who gets along better on an emotional level with her male counterparts than she does her female counterparts.....

Comments

( 14 comments — Drop A Feather )
9thmoon
Apr. 8th, 2002 11:21 pm (UTC)
Amen.

Women are (generally) snooty and sneaky and difficult and manipulative and just generally nasty to have to be around, and I'm glad I am one, so I don't have to be a gay man, because I wouldn't want to be (a gay man) in today's day and age, but I sure enjoy communicating with guys.
I have very few female friends and, guess what? They all hate women, too.

This is my truth.
onyxangel
Apr. 9th, 2002 12:02 am (UTC)
*nods* I agree. The men in my life tend to stick around for much longer than any women.
ex_digitalis869
Apr. 9th, 2002 03:23 am (UTC)
Hmm. Well, apparently i have a wildy different opinion than any of you, but to each his own. :}
onyxangel
Apr. 9th, 2002 09:58 am (UTC)
Re:
*grins* But...see...that's a wonderful thing. Your experiences have proved different than mine. Apparently, so have Tasha's...and that's great. I don't see her statement as 'wrong'...I just see it as a perception rather than a fact. I admit freely that I have NO clear idea of how to relate to my own gender, which is probably why women don't stay in my life.
ex_digitalis869
Apr. 9th, 2002 03:21 am (UTC)
and I'm glad I am one, so I don't have to be a gay man,

Blink blink.
9thmoon
Apr. 9th, 2002 09:27 am (UTC)
Don't you think it's exceedingly difficult to be a gay man?
ex_digitalis869
Apr. 9th, 2002 02:14 pm (UTC)
Hell, it's difficult to be human. It's very difficult to be queer in a small town. In Dallas, none of the gay men i knew were complaining.
9thmoon
Apr. 9th, 2002 02:19 pm (UTC)
I don't know. Seattle has a very high homosexual population, and it still seems really hard.
mrcorn
Apr. 9th, 2002 07:13 am (UTC)
I had originally thought that this was kind of an odd, slightly offensive remark until I went to her journal and read the whole thing for myself. In that context, it comes across as being just another random thought jotted down by some random person in their journal. It's just her opinion, nothing more. It has no meaning other than a thought based upon her own experiences. It's highly generalized, as I know of more than a few women who can argue both for and against that viewpoint, but life is such that we only have our own experiences to draw from. The "point blank truth" bit, however, did make it silly.
onyxangel
Apr. 9th, 2002 10:09 am (UTC)
Re:
*smiles* I was by no means offended by anything she said. It just inspired my own thoughts on the subject...and the only thing I disagree with is the 'point blank fact'. I wish I did get along better with women on the whole..but it seems I'm always waiting for the proverbial knife....
ex_digitalis869
Apr. 9th, 2002 03:16 pm (UTC)
Of course it was just a personal, journally thing to say. But this is what annoys me - I hear people saying all the time, "Women are: Blahblahblahblahblah." And it's usually about emotions, etc. Sounds like the fucking promise-keepers. Men protect the women because they're sweeter, weaker, more emotional, whatever. It pisses me off whether i hear it from heterosexual men, gay men, or lesbians. Stuff 'em in a box, 'cause that's the way you like 'em.

In my opinion, a good two thirds of the differences are because of socialization. The othe portion are personality differences. If you take the Meyers-Briggs types, for instance, you quickly realize that certain types are disproportionately packed with males. But not completely. INTP biological females are fairly rare, but i've met a handful. I'm not the only one. But i think it's idiotic, limiting, and untrue to say, "I act like a man," simply because my personality type consists of more men than women.
onyxangel
Apr. 9th, 2002 03:49 pm (UTC)
Re:
INTP?
cadalesien
Apr. 9th, 2002 02:12 pm (UTC)
Fall in the the more manly setting. They think and act by and large act like a man. A friend of mine dated a girl like that. He was told many times over that she was that way and he failed to see it. I do not see myself that way. I am lean more on the girlly stuff as you say... I don't feel I am snooty and sneaky and stuff...any way thats my little bit
onyxangel
Apr. 9th, 2002 02:49 pm (UTC)
Re:
Okay....I'm not entirely sure I think or act like a man either. I'm somewhere in the middle I think :P
Girls being snooty and sneaky is pretty much a given - because most of us are, more often than men. That's not to say that its a main personality trait for us all - thankfully only a select few display that as a personality trait. Unfortunately, I think those few keep showing up in my life :P Take that as nothing more than the generalization it was
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